Crisp, Clean and Stain-free

"...its too bad you won't let me talk and get to know you; I would have loved it. I wish you all the best and if you ever change your mind remember me."

Have you ever sent a message like this one? Or been the recipient of one? I can say yes to both questions. I've sent oodles of flirts, winks, grins, kisses and even a few check-this-box-if-you-like-me notes, only to receive nothing in response. And while I can only assume the objects of my desire must have been under some evil magician's spell and were physically restrained from responding to my flirty invitation, I was mildly annoyed by the lack of response.

One reason I choose to online date is because I don't have much time in my schedule to go out. Actually, I don't care to meet men "at the club" anymore, but that's for another post. Since I consider my time valuable, I try to treat other people's time as valuable too.

I respond to (almost) every message/teddy bear/heart/champagne flute I receive. Why? Closure. Crisp, clean and stain-free. If a man takes 10 seconds to type a poorly spelled 250 word sentence, the least I can do is let him know I'm not interested. That way, he can be free to "keep it real for the ladys out there."

I get my share of not interesteds too. Ok, not really. But I don't ever expect not to. You're setting yourself up for a frustrating time if you have alot invested each time you send or receive a message. Just go with the flow. Be clear and honest about what does and does not work for you. Mixed and loaded messages just make it more difficult and create drama. Besides, good manners are sexy.